Audible Audio Books Review.

Why I listen to and LOVE Audible Audiobooks .

Where I get ideas to optimize life AND hack my brain.

David Goggin's new book Can't Hurt Me on audible audio books.
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I love self-development and finding ways to allow myself to actualize the highest version of Daniyel Bingham.

I listen to audio books when I workout…

I listen to audio books on audible while I commute to a client or lecture…

I listen to audio books when I am cleaning, packing, cooking.

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My top 5 must listen to this week are:

1. Can’t Hurt Me – David Goggins – This book serves as daily motivation and a tool to exercising mental toughness. David Goggins is a retired Navy SEAL. He is the only member of the U.S. Armed Forces to complete SEAL school with two “Hell Weeks”, the U.S. Army Ranger School, and Air Force Tactical Air Controller training.

The book is about taking control of your life, clearing the limiting beliefs that hold an individual back, and maximizing life potential on a day to day basis through mental toughness.

My favorite quote from David Goggins is “There is no finish line in life.”

2. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents – Lindsay C. Gibson – One day I called up my older brother and asked him, “When did you stop feeling like a little boy and start feeling like a man inside, emotionally?” He said, he still felt like that little boy inside often and chooses to behave civilly and as a society would expect an adult to act.

The book on emotionally immature parents by Lindsay C. Gibson has helped me navigate difficult and traumatic experiences that stumped my emotional growth. She offers practical exercises in the book that allowed me to address reasons why I would behave in ways that were not ideal or working to my advantage.

3. The Art of War – Sun Tzu – This semester at Berkeley College, the Business Strategy & Policy professor has “The Art of War” on our reading list. I had previously read the book years ago, and wanted to refresh the ideas and wisdom held within to see correlations within business strategy.

Time needed: 5 minutes.

Frequently I’ve seen questions around the internet that I will provide answers or solutions for below:

  1. “How do I buy a book on audible?”

    To buy a book on audible, I would suggest utilizing the Audible free trial using your account.
    Go to the Audible Free Trial page.
    Click Start your free trial.
    Follow the instructions on-screen when prompted.

  2. “How to purchase audible books?”

    Amazon partnered with Audible Books back in 2008 and since becoming a subsidiary and the sole supplier of digital audiobooks for Amazon, online shoppers can purchase audible books via an Amazon Prime Membership or an Audible Membership.

    With Audible, you can purchase a digital audiobook and listen to it on a compatible Fire tablet, Kindle e-reader, Kindle reading app, or Audible app.

    Audible audiobooks are currently compatible with:
    Alexa Devices
    Kindle for iPad, iPhone, and iPod touch
    Kindle for Android
    Kindle for Samsung
    Kindle Oasis (9th Generation)
    Kindle Oasis (8th Generation)
    Kindle (8th Generation)
    Kindle Touch (4th Generation)
    Kindle Keyboard (3rd Generation)
    Kindle DX (2nd Generation)
    Kindle (2nd Generation)
    Kindle (1st Generation)
    Fire Phone
    Fire tablet

    The Audible apps for iOS, Android, and Windows
    Audible software for PC and Mac

    MP3 players and other devices compatible with Audible’s file format
    For more information about listening to audiobooks, go to Audible Support

  3. “How much is Audible?”

    Gold Monthly $14.95 per month 1 per month
    Platinum Monthly $22.95 per month 2 per month
    Gold Annual $149.50 per year 12 per year
    Platinum Annual $229.50 per year 24 per year

    I am currently a Gold Monthly Audible Member, which means that every month I receive three credits that can be traded for any audiobook. The membership also comes with two Audible Originals.
    And what I love and utilize most being an audible member is the ability to roll over a limited number of unused credits which gives me leeway when I am behind on wrapping up a book.

  4. To sign up for a free trial membership to Audible, please visit the Audible Free Trial page

Why Employ an INTJ Personality

INTJ Personality Type Quora
A post on Quora INTJ Personality Type

You should employ an INTJ personality if you have a desire to or an interest in restructuring the way you approach your business process or business model.

My sister was the first person in my life who understood that I was not pointing out errors to find fault. She utilized my gifts of pattern recognition and quality improvement to assist her in identifying hidden issues within her projects and what solutions would best fix the impending dilemma.

You should employ an INTJ if there are things about your approach or business process.

As a child, my parents made me an observant child who was always aware of what was going on and what could potentially happen.

This experience led to me being in my mother’s retail store, flea markets, church fairs, and fashion shows and conventions, understanding the process she was undertaking.

Being exposed to such complex supply chain processes, supplier negotiations, and crewing the car while she double parked in Canal St. for last minute items.

I’ve mentally optimized processes and workflows since I was ten, and have only refined those strategies and solutions since starting my businesses…

Moreover, I have refined my business leadership, facilitation, and communication skills while studying business management and analysis while at Berkeley College.

Any organization I align with has to leverage my skills, knowledge, and abilities for the relationship to be successful.

You should employ an INTJ Personality if your personal, religious, political, or superstitious beliefs DO NOT govern how you make business decisions.

Otherwise, my practice of objective thinking, critical analysis, and unbiased opinion will stifle us both.

I love business and have a continuous inner dialogue constantly running that is analyzing, optimizing, and searching for ways of increasing efficiency.

Working smarter, not harder.

You should employ an INTJ Personality type if you prefer the big-picture thinking of a decentralized management approach over the time consuming and human talent wasting centralized management approach.

Placing team members in positions that bolster their confidence while displaying their skills, knowledge, and unique abilities are crucial to employing an INTJ Personality type.

You should employ an INTJ personality type if you need an objective voice within your organization.

Where many employees and managers are looking to choose sides, an INTJ personality type is looking at the dynamics at play between both parties.

We see where both parties are coming from while providing both with missing data, information, or perspective that fuses the puzzle.

An Essay on Symbolism: “189”


Numbers are everywhere in obscure and apparent places.
My earliest life memories drift back to the number set, “one eighty-nine.”
Be mindful that, “One eighty-nine” is not an area code or a lock combination.
Moreover, it is closer to a symbol of often inner reflected thoughts, day-dreams, and forgotten thoughts that flash across my mental IMAX screen whenever the awareness of “One eighty-nine” happens.
“One eighty-nine” eternally implies an inside secret, an inside joke, or forbidden images and lost conversations related to the arbitrary experience of childhood.
Words frequently fail to communicate what “One eighty-nine” so clearly shares with
me in each new way, place, or location it is found.
My brother would have a dream about “One eighty-nine,” and then play the numbers straight AND box, before the eleven o’clock news came on.
My mother fostered kids at “One eighty-nine” and had a vegetable garden in the backyard.
I cherished dreams of playing shortstop for the Yankees at “One eighty-nine,” but then that window broke.
Moreover, the New York Yankees would not allow me to break “tradition” with three
numbers on my jersey, “One eighty-nine.”
My sister and I code switch transitioning in and out of a cryptic, symbolic language only a brother and sister would recognize (or close, close family), by merely saying “One eighty-nine.”
“Be seen and not heard” were the unwritten rules of “One eight-nine.”
One eighty-nine symbolizes those sensitive, introverted childhood moments.
The rare occasions “One eighty-nine” randomly triggers an inner emotion that sends me back in time to when I grew up on Prospect Street.

Justice in America: Equitable Self-Interest

What is Justice in America?

What is Justice in America

It is my conviction that everything in life begins with a person’s mentality, and justice is no different.

The way that a human being views the world dictates much of what that person will see or construe as “justice.” Justice matters and exists as it relates to the self-interest of the individuals involved.

The uncontrollable psychological biases we all have when viewing society within America rely upon the values an individual holds, moreover it is influenced by the expectations society requests of the same individual through social contracts.

Justice is the point where the “marginal cost” of self-sacrifice meets the “marginal benefit” society gains as a result.

In society, a person is allowed to have individual opinions, goals, and beliefs, yet many conform to the preconceived circumstantial ideas about their ethnicity, limiting beliefs about being from a particular neighborhood or state, and social peer-pressures of being politically correct or ethnically accurate.

Justice then becomes the equitable treatment of an individuals right to act in their self-interest, as long as they are not imposing force or criminal behavior against another individual.

Furthermore, justice is what the evidence proves while uncovering the factual nature behind all things considered in any given case.

Justice then becomes much like “beauty,” reliant on the beliefs and eyes of the beholder.

Strategic Leader as an INTJ Personality

strategic leadership as an INTJ PersonalityDeep within my psyche resides a constant rumination on building a legacy of businesses that survive me, and provide for my family. The most critical skills that I can develop as an INTJ personality is to fuse strategy with leadership is through continually scanning for new opportunities while concentrating on mitigating threats and blind spots.

The overall score of seventy-two (out of eighty) on the strategic-leadership self-assessment, indicates that I do currently possess many of the characteristics needed to create and fulfill a company’s vision and mission statements, combining skilled people with quality resources to execute organizational objectives. Moreover, it highlighted tools that will be implemented into my leadership style to actualize a more strategic leader.

It is my conviction that everything in life starts with a person’s state of mind. As a leader, being strategic is most paramount in times of choice and decision making. There will be moments of chaos where obstacles are in the way of effective leadership, and by keeping an intellectual perspective and emotional self-control, a leader can focus their attention while making well-informed strategic decisions.

While serving as a Marine Corps Squad Leader for a Fleet Anti-Security Team, it was my responsibility to create a vision, select the ideal individuals from within my squad, then organize a strategic approach that would achieve company objectives through specific procedures and protocols. Reflecting on this period, I developed the ability to discern between experiences and reasoning or emotions and consequences within arbitrary events.

This understanding provided the differentiation between accomplishing an objective yet losing a marine’s life or achieving a mission efficiently, where all Marine’s return back to camp alive after completing a goal. Similarly, in business, the clarity of objectivism and making decisions based on standardized measurements allow top-level management to create profitable companies that are humane and socially responsible, while still maximizing revenue and increased market share.

As an INTJ, it is imperative to harmonize being an ambivert, where extroverted characteristics and ideas examined collaboratively, while introverted traits consider implementation and execution in-depth independently. Being an intuitive leader will continue to be a strength that bolsters my ability to create a company vision and corporate culture based on trending data, societal norms, positive analysis, and what all of this information implies.

I seek to understand the intrinsic values that drive and motivate the people I lead, to challenge them in methods that reward them individually, based on the ideas referenced in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

This understanding of who they are, how their skills, knowledge, and abilities interact with their personal life and self-identity; allows leadership to align employees with the vision and direction of the company. Strategic leadership enhances company-wide performance and its ability to utilize resources (human, capital or equipment) effectively.

The plan for developing my strategic leadership skills into the future is on removing the obstacles in my team and staff’s lives. Many times an employee or team member knows their professional responsibilities and possess the potential for quality work, yet some externalities impede their results.

Opposite of exclusively assessing financial reports and statements about profits, loss, expenses, and revenue, I plan to focus on the roadblocks, obstacles and limiting beliefs that reside in the minds and lives of those I rely on to perform at elite performance levels. Empowering the individuals I lead, and the team members I collaborate with will expand my ability to lead an organization strategically.

Whats Your Myers-Briggs Personality Test Type?

Do you find yourself you curious about what your Myers-Briggs Personality Test type is?

You can find out for free here.

The video below is a presentation by AN MBTI expert who takes you through the different personality types.

Take this 10-min Myers-Briggs Personality test to discover your personality type.

Jean Kummerow (TEDxGrinnellCollege) specializes in leadership and management growth and coaching. Her team building strategies have worked with a variety of for-profit, non-profit and government organizations.

Jean is a leadership coach and coordinates the coaching consultants for the Blandin Foundation’s Community Leadership Program, a curriculum strengthening leaders from Minnesota’s provincial societies.

I have taken the test before and my results showed that my personality type is an INTJ.

Myers-Briggs Personality Test
myers Briggs Personality Test INTJ

INTJs are known as the “Strategist.”

INTJs are an intellectual temperament.

Myers-Briggs Personality Test

Take test here.

An INTJ Personality in Social and Community Settings

INTJ Personality Type

As an INTJ personality, my values of intellectual (170), professional (160), and physical (140) can aid me in future endeavors because they are strengths I have spent a lifetime developing. I was fortunate to realize at a young age that I did not want kids or a family of my own. Being disciplined and focused on goals has allowed me to fulfill this lifestyle still today. Refraining from marriage and kids has willed me to develop areas within myself that other men are not able to focus on.

Most men get married and rely on their wife for their emotional development. However, the lifestyle that I have lived as an adult has focused on emotional growth, uncovering the necessary intrinsic values to succeed professionally, and exploring modern science to bring out the fullest potential of my genetics.

I have a friend from Staten Island whom I served with, in the Marine Corps.  Recently, he sent me a picture of all four of his kids, with the question, “where are your kids”? I sent him four photos of the logos that represent the four businesses I’ve created over the past ten years. I told him those were my babies, and I do look at my companies as entities that will survive me, fifty plus years from today.

The social (80) and community (80) values I scored could improve by removing the mask and letting people communicate with the genuine self.

My struggles with social environments are not related to shyness or being timid. The obstacles that present themselves are that many people act with surface level learned behaviors, and are often not representing their “true” sentiments. They are reflecting their feelings in socially acceptable manners.

As an introvert (INTJ), I have discovered how not to act, what not to say, and what to avoid, to evade people viewing me in negative ways that I do not control. There is a subtle power in commanding the flow of information when in social situations, since the ‘benefit of the doubt’ goes to the first impression.

What is lacking in extroverted charisma is made up for with in-depth thought, professional curiosity, and a one on one connection that allows me to create trust between myself and another person. All of which, comes from accepting that I will be judged by others regardless of anything I can do or control.

Being a black (INTJ) man in America, I learned from a young age that stereotypes and perceptions matter. There were many social situations I found myself in where I was the only person of color in attendance, and those scenarios taught me to accept that people will judge you.

A stranger’s prejudgment provides the opportunity to leverage their judgment to my advantage if it is not resisted or viewed as an offense. Whether it is through impressing them, turning their former perception into stark contrast, or being able to define who I am as a man against any of the men they have previously known, I will have an opportunity to make an impact.

One of the tools I have implemented into leading others in social or communal settings is by allowing people to have their previous experiences. Many people have been witness to, or a victim of, something they feel is a violation or offense against them, and they create mental barriers to protect themselves from future harm. Often that shield of protection includes blanketing an entire race or demographic of people, purely by an arbitrary association to the past.

As a leader (INTJ), when people are permitted to honor those feelings and experiences, it can create an opening for new learning and diverse associations. The respect that a leader can gain from their followers as a result of this is profound and will be the strategy I continue to improve within or leverage social situations.

Big Five Personality Traits (INTJ Personality)

The Communication Styles of an Objective Leader

Table of Contents

  1. Communication Style Summary
  2. Communication
  3. Feedback and Coaching
  4. Conflict Styles

INTJ Personality

Big Five Personality Traits:

Communication Summary: INTJ Personality

As a leader, I chose an objective communication style because it allows me to be straight-forward. It is not about whether a subordinate or colleague ends up loving or hating me as a leader, what matters is that people tend to respect another person when that person is straight-forward with them. Based on my Big Five Personality test scores (high in conscientiousness, self-efficacy, and assertiveness; while low in trust, altruism, and emotionality), the specific things I can do to improve my communication, feedback, coaching, and conflict management style, will lead to me being a more persuasive leader.

The Marine Corps introduced me to the art of communications. I took the Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery (ASVAB) test which determined that I would be best suited to a be communicator after I fulfilled my duty as a marine expert rifleman. Communications in the Marines Corps reinforced two things that my parents had already instilled in me. The first was to think before you speak (or communicate).  If you know what needs to be transmitted, and have thought about the best way to deliver it, you will have a higher degree of success in conveying your message. The second thing the Marine Corps reinforced was to know whom you are communicating with and orient your message accordingly.

Being a communicator in the service forced me to interact simultaneously in complex and simplistic ways. We expressed silently in the immediate vicinity utilizing hand gestures, pre-conceived symbols, and items in the external environment, while also using cryptographic materials to communicate via satellite and radio frequencies. When I transitioned to the civilian world and took on corporate sales, I immediately relied on an ability to patiently gather a consumer’s information, as much information about them as needed, to provide the exact communication that would sell a person on a disposable expense (something they may or may not need).

The entire idea behind sales is gathering information about your consumer and organizing that information in a way that appeals to what they desire most. These repetitious, habitual career skills have morphed into a collaborative, participative management style that utilizes my greatest strength as a leader, conscientiousness.

Big Five Personality Traits: INTJ Personality

Communication Style

Conscientiousness as a communication strength actively represents the convictions and underlying values revealed through my life experience. I then apply this information to situations I face at the moment, to see the big picture. Over the past 21 years, I’ve used this understanding of myself to communicate efficiently and productively as an introvert, which I will exemplify in three different ways.

The most evident example is returning to school, seeking higher education at Berkeley College. In high school, my GPA was just above a 2.5 at its peak. When I left the Marine Corps and went to Full Sail University, my GPA was a 2.8 at its height. Fourteen years later, my GPA is a 3.8, based on my ability to reference the silver linings learned from life experiences and apply them to collegiate academic standards.

The significant difference being that I have had real-world, life experience that I use to process diverse curriculum related theories. How this relates to my communication style is that it makes me an avid listener who collaborates well. While I  see multiple perspectives and patterns from past experiences, I further excel by implementing outside opinion; someone else’s subjective professional experience, or objective wisdom to bolster my overall strategy.

This approach leads to team members or individuals who feel like they have participated and had an impact on the whole project. Experience also allows me to initiate a goal utilizing someone else’s strategy or blueprint while using intuition to steer or course correct the direction of the project when things go unplanned.

It is ironic that my strength in self-efficacy furthers my ability to be an avid listener. I need as much information from each person I communicate with, to decide if my skills, knowledge, and abilities would provide them with their desired result or outcome.

Listening to the various ideas, complaints, concerns, aspirations, goals, and inventions of the individuals working on my team allows me to intuitively connect all of these ideas into one strategic plan to address contingencies and negative implications. Many of the best ideas I have formulated for myself are through taking the message communicated to me, and making that system or process effectively serve my purpose.

The setbacks and roadblocks I vehemently listen in on, provide the frequently asked questions my inner thoughts peruse to form the path of least resistance to profit or success. Having an intuitive mind allows me to listen to their choice of words and symbolism while envisioning the ideas or messages communicated to me. This process is more beneficial if it is being described by someone who is a sensor or feeler, rather than a thinker because someone who is a feeler, takes the emotions and feelings of others into account.

Their ideas are more inclined than mine to be humane and mindful of human rights, which allows me to listen and create a plan that synthesizes the efficiency of being objective when making decisions. It also adds to my lower spectrum of emotionality, while empowering my strengths.

Finally, I excel as a listener because I strive to remain objective at all times. While I will stay firm in my convictions and have plenty of reasoning and logic behind my decisions, I am always open to ideas that I can conceptualize as more efficient than my own. Achieving the objective or making the most profit will always remain more important to me than my name being behind the reason we succeed or profit.

If multiple team members provide valid, proven ideas that would positively impact a project, they all will have a sense of cooperation and inclusivity since synthesizing external information is a strength of mine. They could all have vastly different ideas, and I will see the differences and similarities, allowing me to combine them into unique and innovative applications.

Big Five Personality Test Feedback & Coaching: INTJ Personality

When it comes to the big five personality traits feedback and coaching, because I have a high need for success and focus solely on my achievement, I tend to be concerned with my agenda more than others. If I view someone as having character traits that I know lead to optimal performance, I often focus my energy and efforts with them, ignoring those that would need more nurturing.

This habit is due to having high self-discipline, which allows me to will-power my way towards anything I genuinely desire for myself. Moreover, I am willing to assist others who show they too are self-regulated and able to stay the course towards their goals. My challenge as a leader is to become more open to the feedback of others who dwell outside of the value system I use to lead myself and others like me. They too need help in growing or achieving success.

While I understand there is more than one way to do something, I still struggle with wanting to lead others who have a tendency to make decisions I know will lead to failure. Following the line between letting a subordinate learn from their actions versus restructuring the faulty mindset I know, matters more than any individual or combined effort.

For this reason, I focus on empowering and providing feedback where I can see an individual’s effort or idea leading them to the more significant result or outcome. I coach my team, peers, and colleagues with an intuitiveness that is based on their proven performance and projected potential. I remain cautious when coaching others because while I have learned from failure and have the patience to let someone figure things out for themselves, not everyone has the same will-power not to give up. Moreover, I have realized the inherent inefficiency of time that mounts, letting others ‘figure things out’ for themselves.

INTJ Personality Conflict Styles

The Marine Corps taught me that no one path or plan achieves a mission. If the lowest ranking marine has intel that would save lives or accomplish a task more efficiently, I have to hear that individual. That individual being ignored can lead to a death on the battlefield or a conflict in the corporate sector.

Therefore when it comes time to collaborate, as a manager or leader, I know it will be the fusion of everyone’s ideas, efficiently organized and prioritized to address specific points in the process when chaos ensues. One by one, I can fuse together the many plans, ideas, and contributions I have listened intently to, placing them where they make the most strategic sense.

When it comes to conflict, I have a method of high surgency. I am motivated and inspired to represent myself if treated inequitably. Anger has never been trouble for me when dealing with conflict. I have used an accommodating and genuinely interested style to extract information and the best ideas from people, while also seeking to understand their motives and intentions.

Being high on conscientiousness allows me to see multiple perspectives and a wide array of solutions, that have little to no relation to my feelings about the subject matter or persons involved. My curiosity for people in the work environment lies in my aspiration to understand how they can best contribute to accomplishing objectives for the organization.